Every film here was picked because it works for when outgrowing someone you love. The editorial team picks for emotional honesty over comfort or spectacle.
Films for when you have grown past someone you still love. Nothing broke. The space just shaped differently, and you are the one sitting with it.
You have become too much for this relationship and you have developed a very good way of saying that without saying it. The irony is protective. You can talk about the drift with a certain wryness, make it sound like something that happens to everyone, position yourself as a person who has perspective and doesn't spend time on trains thinking about who they used to be when they still fit with this person. The detachment is not dishonest. It just doesn't cover everything. These films will find the gap in it, not to break you open, just to remind you the gap is there.
SEELE orders an all-out attack on NERV, aiming to destroy the Evas before Gendo can advance his own plans for the Human Instrumentality Project. Shinji is pushed to the limits of his sanity as he is forced to decide the fate of humanity.
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Under the direction of a ruthless instructor, a talented young drummer begins to pursue perfection at any cost, even his humanity.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
Unemployed and recently dumped, Mitch and his buddy Sam start a revenge-for-hire business to raise the $50,000 that Sam's father needs to get a heart transplant.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
Leonard Shelby is tracking down the man who raped and murdered his wife. The difficulty of locating his wife's killer, however, is compounded by the fact that he suffers from a rare, untreatable form of short-term memory loss. Although he can recall details of life before his acc
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
Smart enough to hold the distance. True enough to find the gap in it anyway.
Born free in the American West, Black Beauty is a horse rounded up and brought to Birtwick Stables, where she meets spirited teenager Jo Green. The two forge a bond that carries Beauty through the different chapters, challenges and adventures.
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
A dog finds the meaning of his own existence through the lives of the humans he meets.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
The summer of his high school freshman year, Hodaka runs away from his remote island home to Tokyo, and quickly finds himself pushed to his financial and personal limits. The weather is unusually gloomy and rainy every day, as if taking its cue from his life. After many days of s
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
As the world moves on from the war and technological advances bring changes to her life, Violet still hopes to see her lost commanding officer again.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
When five lovely young girls who hate studying hire part-time tutor Futaro, he guides not only their education but also their hearts. Time spent has brought them all closer, with feelings growing within the girls and Futaro. As they finish their third year of high school and thei
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Hinako is a surf-loving college student who has just moved to a small seaside town. When a sudden fire breaks out at her apartment building, she is rescued by Minato, a handsome firefighter, and the two soon fall in love.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
Raised in a poverty-stricken slum, a 16-year-old girl named Starr now attends a suburban prep school. After she witnesses a police officer shoot her unarmed best friend, she's torn between her two very different worlds as she tries to speak her truth.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
In the aftermath of the Fourth Impact, stranded without their Evangelions, Shinji, Asuka and Rei find refuge in one of the rare pockets of humanity that still exist on the ruined planet Earth. There, each lives a life far different from their days as an Evangelion pilot. However,
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
You can stay behind the glass. They'll find you anyway.
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