These picks were hand-selected for when being the one who cares more, not by algorithm, by editors. Films that meet you where you are, not where they want you to be.
Films for when the math of the relationship has never been equal and you stopped pretending somewhere around the third time you reached first.
You are not going to talk to anyone about this. Not today. You have your reasons and they are real and you are not going to be talked out of them right now. So you are here instead, which is its own kind of decision, a way of getting close to the thing without having to say it out loud to someone who is going to respond. These films will get closer than you expect. They are not a substitute for the conversation you're avoiding, and they know it, and they will get as close as they can and leave the rest to you.
At a tiny Parisian café, the adorable yet painfully shy Amélie accidentally discovers a gift for helping others. Soon Amelie is spending her days as a matchmaker, guardian angel, and all-around do-gooder. But when she bumps into a handsome stranger, will she find the courage to b
It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.
Gets close enough
SEELE orders an all-out attack on NERV, aiming to destroy the Evas before Gendo can advance his own plans for the Human Instrumentality Project. Shinji is pushed to the limits of his sanity as he is forced to decide the fate of humanity.
The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.
Holds the question
A petty criminal fakes insanity to serve his sentence in a mental ward rather than prison. He soon finds himself as a leader to the other patients:and an enemy to the cruel, domineering nurse who runs the ward.
It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.
Better than nothing
A parasitic alien soul is injected into the body of Melanie Stryder. Instead of carrying out her race's mission of taking over the Earth, "Wanda" (as she comes to be called) forms a bond with her host and sets out to aid other free humans.
Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.
Closer than expected
None of these are a substitute for the conversation you are avoiding. They are just the nearest available thing.
Japan, 1943, during World War II. Young Suzu leaves her village near Hiroshima to marry and live with her in-laws in Kure, a military harbor. Her creativity to overcome deprivation quickly makes her indispensable at home. Inhabited by an ancestral wisdom, Suzu impregnates the sim
It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.
Gets close enough
Lara Jean's love life goes from imaginary to out of control when her secret letters to every boy she's ever fallen for are mysteriously mailed out.
The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.
Holds the question
When five lovely young girls who hate studying hire part-time tutor Futaro, he guides not only their education but also their hearts. Time spent has brought them all closer, with feelings growing within the girls and Futaro. As they finish their third year of high school and thei
It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.
Better than nothing
Canadian folk artist Maud Lewis falls in love with a fishmonger while working for him as a live-in housekeeper.
Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.
Closer than expected
An intriguing and sinful exploration of seduction, forbidden love, and redemption, Gabriel's Inferno is a captivating and wildly passionate tale of one man's escape from his own personal hell as he tries to earn the impossible--forgiveness and love.
It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.
Gets close enough
When Juli meets Bryce in the second grade, she knows it's true love. After spending six years trying to convince Bryce the same, she's ready to give up - until he starts to reconsider.
The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.
Holds the question
After his mother’s death, Zucchini is befriended by a kind police officer, Raymond, who accompanies him to his new foster home filled with other orphans his age. There, with the help of his newfound friends, Zucchini eventually learns to trust and love as he searches for a new fa
It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.
Better than nothing
It was a chance meeting started by one of Sol’s friends trying to chat up Jennifer. However, in the end, it was those two who hit it off. Sol enjoyed Jen’s smile, her effort, and how silly she could be. Jen enjoyed Sol’s cooking, his athleticism, and that he would join her in fun
Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.
Closer than expected
Not the session you need. The nearest available thing.
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