These picks were hand-selected for when being the one who cares more, not by algorithm, by editors. Films that meet you where you are, not where they want you to be.
Films for when the math of the relationship has never been equal and you stopped pretending somewhere around the third time you reached first.
You know. You have always known. The math of this relationship has never been equal and you stopped pretending it was somewhere around the third time you noticed you were always the one who reached first. So now you wear it lightly. You joke about it, you frame it as your personality, you make it into a thing that's just kind of funny about you. The irony is a coat. These films are for people who have been wearing the coat so long they forgot what they put it on over.
At a tiny Parisian café, the adorable yet painfully shy Amélie accidentally discovers a gift for helping others. Soon Amelie is spending her days as a matchmaker, guardian angel, and all-around do-gooder. But when she bumps into a handsome stranger, will she find the courage to b
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
SEELE orders an all-out attack on NERV, aiming to destroy the Evas before Gendo can advance his own plans for the Human Instrumentality Project. Shinji is pushed to the limits of his sanity as he is forced to decide the fate of humanity.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
A petty criminal fakes insanity to serve his sentence in a mental ward rather than prison. He soon finds himself as a leader to the other patients:and an enemy to the cruel, domineering nurse who runs the ward.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
A parasitic alien soul is injected into the body of Melanie Stryder. Instead of carrying out her race's mission of taking over the Earth, "Wanda" (as she comes to be called) forms a bond with her host and sets out to aid other free humans.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
Smart enough to hold the distance. True enough to find the gap in it anyway.
Joe Gardner is a middle school teacher with a love for jazz music. After a successful audition at the Half Note Club, he suddenly gets into an accident that separates his soul from his body and is transported to the You Seminar, a center in which souls develop and gain passions b
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Everyone deserves a great love story, but for 17-year-old Simon Spier, it's a little more complicated. He hasn't told his family or friends that he's gay, and he doesn't know the identity of the anonymous classmate that he's fallen for online.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
Seventeen-year-old Stella spends most of her time in the hospital as a cystic fibrosis patient. Her life is full of routines, boundaries and self-control : all of which get put to the test when she meets Will, an impossibly charming teen who has the same illness. There's an insta
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
In 1950, amidst the ravages of the Korean War, Sergeant Süleyman stumbles upon a a half-frozen little girl, with no parents and no help in sight and he risks his own life to save her, smuggling her into his army base and out of harm’s way.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
Edmond Dantès becomes the target of a sinister plot and is arrested on his wedding day for a crime he did not commit. After 14 years in the island prison of Ch--teau d’If, he manages a daring escape. Now rich beyond his dreams, he assumes the identity of the Count of Monte-Cristo
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Barcelona, Spain. Adrián Doria, a young and successful businessman accused of murder, meets one night with Virginia Goodman, an expert interrogation lawyer, in order to devise a defense strategy.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
During a dinner, a group of friends decide to share whatever message or phone call they will receive during the evening, with unforeseen consequences.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
Mia, an aspiring actress, serves lattes to movie stars in between auditions and Sebastian, a jazz musician, scrapes by playing cocktail party gigs in dingy bars, but as success mounts they are faced with decisions that begin to fray the fragile fabric of their love affair, and th
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
You can stay behind the glass. They'll find you anyway.
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