Every film here was picked because it works for when grieving a relationship that technically still exists. The editorial team picks for emotional honesty over comfort or spectacle.
Films for mourning something while it is still in the room with you. The grief that doesn't get a support group.
You have the thing held at the right distance. Close enough to know it's real, far enough that it can't touch you directly, and the irony is the tool that maintains the gap. It is a legitimate coping mechanism and it has served you well and these films know how to work with it rather than against it. They will find you anyway, not by breaking through the detachment but by sliding in underneath it, the way the real things always do when you've gotten too good at keeping them out.
When 11-year-old Riley moves to a new city, her Emotions team up to help her through the transition. Joy, Fear, Anger, Disgust and Sadness work together, but when Joy and Sadness get lost, they must journey through unfamiliar places to get back home.
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Haruki secretly had feelings for Akihiko for years, but Akihiko was still in a relationship with his roommate, the violinist Ugetsu Murata. Haruki, Akihiko, and Ugetsu's love clashes and starts to move forward.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
What will be her last straw? A devastatingly bad day pushes a hardworking single mother to the breaking point : and into a shocking act of desperation.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
When a lively young family moves in next door, grumpy widower Otto Anderson meets his match in a quick-witted, pregnant woman named Marisol, leading to an unlikely friendship that turns his world upside down.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
Smart enough to hold the distance. True enough to find the gap in it anyway.
A cold and mysterious new security guard for a Los Angeles cash truck company surprises his co-workers when he unleashes precision skills during a heist. The crew is left wondering who he is and where he came from. Soon, the marksman's ultimate motive becomes clear as he takes dr
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Marcello, a small and gentle dog groomer, finds himself involved in a dangerous relationship of subjugation with Simone, a former violent boxer who terrorizes the entire neighborhood. In an effort to reaffirm his dignity, Marcello will submit to an unexpected act of vengeance.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
Separated from his daughter, a father with an intellectual disability must prove his innocence when he is jailed for the death of a commander's child.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
Two 13-year-old boys spend an idyllic summer together, but their connection is put to the test when they become the subject of speculation at school.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
The powerful story of love and loss that inspired the creation of Shakespeare's timeless masterpiece, Hamlet.
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
The unlikely friendship of a boy, a mole, a fox and a horse traveling together in the boy's search for home.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
After an altercation between Alex, the president's son, and Britain's Prince Henry at a royal event becomes tabloid fodder, their long-running feud now threatens to drive a wedge in U.S./British relations. When the rivals are forced into a staged truce, their icy relationship beg
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
In Monterrey, Mexico, a young street gang spends their days dancing to slowed-down cumbia and attending parties. After a mix-up with a local cartel, their leader is forced to migrate to the U.S. but quickly longs to return home.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
You can stay behind the glass. They'll find you anyway.
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