These picks were hand-selected for when secret admiration you cant confess, not by algorithm, by editors. Films that meet you where you are, not where they want you to be.
Films for feelings you are not going to say out loud. Because of the situation, or what it would cost, or what it would change.
You have the thing held at the right distance. Close enough to know it's real, far enough that it can't touch you directly, and the irony is the tool that maintains the gap. It is a legitimate coping mechanism and it has served you well and these films know how to work with it rather than against it. They will find you anyway, not by breaking through the detachment but by sliding in underneath it, the way the real things always do when you've gotten too good at keeping them out.
1930s Korea, in the period of Japanese occupation, a new girl, Sook-hee, is hired as a handmaiden to a Japanese heiress, Hideko, who lives a secluded life on a large countryside estate with her domineering Uncle Kouzuki. But the maid has a secret. She is a pickpocket recruited by
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Lara Jean's love life goes from imaginary to out of control when her secret letters to every boy she's ever fallen for are mysteriously mailed out.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
With dreams of diving abroad, Tsuneo gets a job assisting Josee, an artist whose imagination takes her far beyond her wheelchair. But when the tide turns against them, they push each other to places they never thought possible, and inspire a love fit for a storybook.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
Everyone deserves a great love story, but for 17-year-old Simon Spier, it's a little more complicated. He hasn't told his family or friends that he's gay, and he doesn't know the identity of the anonymous classmate that he's fallen for online.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
Smart enough to hold the distance. True enough to find the gap in it anyway.
Diagnosed with a mental illness halfway through his senior year of high school, a witty, introspective teen struggles to keep it a secret while falling in love with a brilliant classmate who inspires him to open his heart and not be defined by his condition.
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Nine years later, Jesse travels across Europe giving readings from a book he wrote about the night he spent in Vienna with Celine. After his reading in Paris, Celine finds him, and they spend part of the day together before Jesse has to again leave for a flight. They are both in
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
A young couple's relationship clashes with the harsh realities of the California Gold Rush of 1850. Angel, experiencing love for the first time and facing demons unsurmountable, runs from the new life she doesn't believe she deserves. When Michael sets out to find her, Angel disc
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
When Juli meets Bryce in the second grade, she knows it's true love. After spending six years trying to convince Bryce the same, she's ready to give up - until he starts to reconsider.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
High schoolers Mitsuha and Taki are complete strangers living separate lives. But one night, they suddenly switch places. Mitsuha wakes up in Taki’s body, and he in hers. This bizarre occurrence continues to happen randomly, and the two must adjust their lives around each other.
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
An intriguing and sinful exploration of seduction, forbidden love, and redemption, Gabriel's Inferno is a captivating and wildly passionate tale of one man's escape from his own personal hell as he tries to earn the impossible--forgiveness and love.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
After his classmate and crush is diagnosed with a pancreatic disease, an average high schooler sets out to make the most of her final days.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
In Fujisawa, Sakuta Azusagawa is in his second year of high school. Blissful days with his girlfriend and upperclassman, Mai Sakurajima, are interrupted by the appearance of his first crush, Shoko Makinohara.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
You can stay behind the glass. They'll find you anyway.
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