These films were chosen by the Moviepiq editorial team for when the one you hurt without meaning to. No forced resolution. These films sit with the feeling rather than rush past it.
Films for when you hurt someone and didn't mean to, and the not-meaning-to doesn't change the shape of what happened for them.
You have the thing held at the right distance. Close enough to know it's real, far enough that it can't touch you directly, and the irony is the tool that maintains the gap. It is a legitimate coping mechanism and it has served you well and these films know how to work with it rather than against it. They will find you anyway, not by breaking through the detachment but by sliding in underneath it, the way the real things always do when you've gotten too good at keeping them out.
The film tells the story of Ariel, a 21-year-old who decides to form a rock band to compete for a prize of ten thousand dollars in a musical band contest, this as a last option when trying to get money to save their relationship and reunite with his ex-girlfriend, which breaks du
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
Shouya Ishida starts bullying the new girl in class, Shouko Nishimiya, because she is deaf. But as the teasing continues, the rest of the class starts to turn on Shouya for his lack of compassion. When they leave elementary school, Shouko and Shouya do not speak to each other aga
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
With dreams of diving abroad, Tsuneo gets a job assisting Josee, an artist whose imagination takes her far beyond her wheelchair. But when the tide turns against them, they push each other to places they never thought possible, and inspire a love fit for a storybook.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
As the world moves on from the war and technological advances bring changes to her life, Violet still hopes to see her lost commanding officer again.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
Smart enough to hold the distance. True enough to find the gap in it anyway.
A young girl had her voice magically taken away so that she would never hurt people with it, but her outlook changes when she encounters music and friendship. Will Naruse be able to convey the anthem of her heart?
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
High schoolers Mitsuha and Taki are complete strangers living separate lives. But one night, they suddenly switch places. Mitsuha wakes up in Taki’s body, and he in hers. This bizarre occurrence continues to happen randomly, and the two must adjust their lives around each other.
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
A 17 year old finds out that his girlfriend is dying, so he sets out to give her an entire life, in the last year she has left.
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
Having died unexpectedly, firefighter Ja-hong is taken to the afterlife by 3 afterlife guardians. Only when he passes 7 trials over 49 days and proves he was innocent in human life, he’s able to reincarnate, and his 3 afterlife guardians are by his side to defend him in trial.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
During a dinner, a group of friends decide to share whatever message or phone call they will receive during the evening, with unforeseen consequences.
Smart enough to hold at arm's length while still doing something real. You can stay behind the glass and it will still find you.
Keeps the distance
On the night she plans on taking her own life, 17-year-old 'Lisa McVey' is kidnapped and finds herself fighting to stay alive and is raped. She manages to talk her attacker into releasing her, but when she returns home, no one believes her story except for one detective, who susp
It knows what you are doing and does not make you feel bad about it. The irony is part of the furniture here.
Smart enough to hold
May, 1980. Man-seob is a taxi driver in Seoul who lives from hand to mouth, raising his young daughter alone. One day, he hears that there is a foreigner who will pay big money for a drive down to Gwangju city. Not knowing that he’s a German journalist with a hidden agenda, Man-s
The film has enough wit to keep your defenses comfortable and enough truth to slip through anyway.
Finds the gap anyway
After 12 years in prison, former high school football star Eddie Palmer returns home to put his life back together:and forms an unlikely bond with Sam, an outcast boy from a troubled home. But Eddie's past threatens to ruin his new life and family.
It will not break through the detachment. It will just remind you, quietly, that the detachment is sitting on something.
Works with the coat on
You can stay behind the glass. They'll find you anyway.
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