These picks were hand-selected for when the one you hurt without meaning to, not by algorithm, by editors. Films that meet you where you are, not where they want you to be.
Films for when you hurt someone and didn't mean to, and the not-meaning-to doesn't change the shape of what happened for them.
The anger is clean and it has a legitimate address and you are not done with it yet, which is fine. Some feelings need to run their full length before they turn into something else, and the anger is one of those feelings, and you do not owe anyone a faster turnaround. These films let it run. They understand the particular dignity of a feeling that knows it is justified, and they will not talk you down or rush you through to the resolution on the other side.
On March 21st, 1945, the British Royal Air Force set out on a mission to bomb Gestapo's headquarters in Copenhagen. The raid had fatal consequences as some of the bombers accidentally targeted a school and more than 120 people were killed, 86 of whom were children.
It runs on the same fuel you are running on. The anger has somewhere to go inside this story, and it moves.
Runs on the same fuel
Lou Clark, a directionless 26-year-old from the English countryside, takes a job at the local castle as a caregiver and companion to a wealthy young banker, Will Traynor. Wheelchair-bound from an accident two years prior, the once adventurous Will has all but given up : that is u
The film does not ask you to be reasonable about it. It lets the feeling run at the temperature it is actually at.
Lets the anger move
After leaving her daughter Jessica in a small town in Pernambuco to be raised by relatives, Val spends the next 13 years working as a nanny to Fabinho in São Paulo. She has financial stability but has to live with the guilt of having not raised Jessica herself. As Fabinho’s unive
Nobody is going to tell you to calm down in this one. The anger is treated as information, which is all you need right now.
No rush to the other side
As Frank Castle searches for meaning beyond revenge, an unexpected force pulls him back into the fight.
It validates the feeling without resolving it too quickly. You will come out the other side with slightly less pressure, on your own schedule.
Justified
The best thing about these films is that nobody is going to tell you to calm down.
Joe Gardner is a middle school teacher with a love for jazz music. After a successful audition at the Half Note Club, he suddenly gets into an accident that separates his soul from his body and is transported to the You Seminar, a center in which souls develop and gain passions b
It runs on the same fuel you are running on. The anger has somewhere to go inside this story, and it moves.
Runs on the same fuel
During a dinner, a group of friends decide to share whatever message or phone call they will receive during the evening, with unforeseen consequences.
The film does not ask you to be reasonable about it. It lets the feeling run at the temperature it is actually at.
Lets the anger move
An intriguing and sinful exploration of seduction, forbidden love, and redemption, Gabriel's Inferno is a captivating and wildly passionate tale of one man's escape from his own personal hell as he tries to earn the impossible--forgiveness and love.
Nobody is going to tell you to calm down in this one. The anger is treated as information, which is all you need right now.
No rush to the other side
The story of J. Robert Oppenheimer's role in the development of the atomic bomb during World War II.
It validates the feeling without resolving it too quickly. You will come out the other side with slightly less pressure, on your own schedule.
Justified
A young girl had her voice magically taken away so that she would never hurt people with it, but her outlook changes when she encounters music and friendship. Will Naruse be able to convey the anthem of her heart?
It runs on the same fuel you are running on. The anger has somewhere to go inside this story, and it moves.
Runs on the same fuel
Shouya Ishida starts bullying the new girl in class, Shouko Nishimiya, because she is deaf. But as the teasing continues, the rest of the class starts to turn on Shouya for his lack of compassion. When they leave elementary school, Shouko and Shouya do not speak to each other aga
The film does not ask you to be reasonable about it. It lets the feeling run at the temperature it is actually at.
Lets the anger move
In a Mexican border town plagued by neglect, corruption, and violence, a frustrated teacher tries an unorthodox new method to break through his students’ apathy and unlock their curiosity, their potential... and perhaps even their genius.
Nobody is going to tell you to calm down in this one. The anger is treated as information, which is all you need right now.
No rush to the other side
Separated from his daughter, a father with an intellectual disability must prove his innocence when he is jailed for the death of a commander's child.
It validates the feeling without resolving it too quickly. You will come out the other side with slightly less pressure, on your own schedule.
Justified
The anger will move when it's ready. These let it.
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