Every film here was picked because it works for when the person you performed happiness for. The editorial team picks for emotional honesty over comfort or spectacle.
Films for the person you pretended to be fine for. Long enough that you weren't always sure where the performance ended.
You need to be somewhere else for a while. That is the full situation. Somewhere that doesn't require your presence, that asks nothing, that gives you the low warmth of another world to be in without the tax of your own. The dissociation is not a problem to be solved. It is a reasonable response to something unreasonable, and you are allowed to manage it this way for now. These films are built for exactly this. They will be there and so will you and nothing more will be required of either of you.
The film tells the story of Ariel, a 21-year-old who decides to form a rock band to compete for a prize of ten thousand dollars in a musical band contest, this as a last option when trying to get money to save their relationship and reunite with his ex-girlfriend, which breaks du
It asks nothing of you. The world of this film is complete and self-contained and you can be in it without bringing anything from your actual life.
No presence required
Marcello, a small and gentle dog groomer, finds himself involved in a dangerous relationship of subjugation with Simone, a former violent boxer who terrorizes the entire neighborhood. In an effort to reaffirm his dignity, Marcello will submit to an unexpected act of vengeance.
Warm without being demanding. It gives you somewhere else to be for a couple of hours without requiring your presence.
Soft enough to float through
Separated from his daughter, a father with an intellectual disability must prove his innocence when he is jailed for the death of a commander's child.
The kind of film that works when you need to not be in your own head. Low-friction, full world, no performance required.
Lets you be elsewhere
Born free in the American West, Black Beauty is a horse rounded up and brought to Birtwick Stables, where she meets spirited teenager Jo Green. The two forge a bond that carries Beauty through the different chapters, challenges and adventures.
You can float through this one. It will hold you without asking you to hold it back.
Low-friction
No analysis required. You do not have to show up fully for any of these.
1930s Korea, in the period of Japanese occupation, a new girl, Sook-hee, is hired as a handmaiden to a Japanese heiress, Hideko, who lives a secluded life on a large countryside estate with her domineering Uncle Kouzuki. But the maid has a secret. She is a pickpocket recruited by
It asks nothing of you. The world of this film is complete and self-contained and you can be in it without bringing anything from your actual life.
No presence required
Lara Jean's love life goes from imaginary to out of control when her secret letters to every boy she's ever fallen for are mysteriously mailed out.
Warm without being demanding. It gives you somewhere else to be for a couple of hours without requiring your presence.
Soft enough to float through
With dreams of diving abroad, Tsuneo gets a job assisting Josee, an artist whose imagination takes her far beyond her wheelchair. But when the tide turns against them, they push each other to places they never thought possible, and inspire a love fit for a storybook.
The kind of film that works when you need to not be in your own head. Low-friction, full world, no performance required.
Lets you be elsewhere
In the outskirts of Tokyo, a poor but close-knit group living on the fringes of society survives through shoplifting and odd jobs. When Osamu and his son take in a neglected young girl, their already fragile existence begins to unravel. As the family grows attached to her, buried
You can float through this one. It will hold you without asking you to hold it back.
Low-friction
As a CODA (Child of Deaf Adults), Ruby is the only hearing person in her deaf family. When the family's fishing business is threatened, Ruby finds herself torn between pursuing her love of music and her fear of abandoning her parents.
It asks nothing of you. The world of this film is complete and self-contained and you can be in it without bringing anything from your actual life.
No presence required
Four sisters come of age in America in the aftermath of the Civil War.
Warm without being demanding. It gives you somewhere else to be for a couple of hours without requiring your presence.
Soft enough to float through
M, a university dropout low on money and luck, volunteers to take care of his terminally ill grandmother, in the hope of pocketing an inheritance.
The kind of film that works when you need to not be in your own head. Low-friction, full world, no performance required.
Lets you be elsewhere
The family-friendly movie explores the transformational role prayer plays in the lives of the Jordan family. Tony and Elizabeth Jordan, a middle-class couple who seemingly have it all - great jobs, a beautiful daughter, their dream home. But appearances can be deceiving. In reali
You can float through this one. It will hold you without asking you to hold it back.
Low-friction
Somewhere else. That's all you needed. Here it is.
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