These picks were hand-selected for when the person you performed happiness for, not by algorithm, by editors. Films that meet you where you are, not where they want you to be.
Films for the person you pretended to be fine for. Long enough that you weren't always sure where the performance ended.
You are not going to talk to anyone about this. Not today. You have your reasons and they are real and you are not going to be talked out of them right now. So you are here instead, which is its own kind of decision, a way of getting close to the thing without having to say it out loud to someone who is going to respond. These films will get closer than you expect. They are not a substitute for the conversation you're avoiding, and they know it, and they will get as close as they can and leave the rest to you.
Marcello, a small and gentle dog groomer, finds himself involved in a dangerous relationship of subjugation with Simone, a former violent boxer who terrorizes the entire neighborhood. In an effort to reaffirm his dignity, Marcello will submit to an unexpected act of vengeance.
It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.
Gets close enough
Fleeing the war, the immortal Machia, graced with eternal youth, finds a baby abandoned in the forest and decides to raise it as her own child, sparking a moving story between a mortal and a being who does not age.
The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.
Holds the question
1930s Korea, in the period of Japanese occupation, a new girl, Sook-hee, is hired as a handmaiden to a Japanese heiress, Hideko, who lives a secluded life on a large countryside estate with her domineering Uncle Kouzuki. But the maid has a secret. She is a pickpocket recruited by
It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.
Better than nothing
An aspiring musician agrees to a marriage of convenience with a soon-to-deploy Marine, but a tragedy soon turns their fake relationship all too real.
Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.
Closer than expected
None of these are a substitute for the conversation you are avoiding. They are just the nearest available thing.
Four sisters come of age in America in the aftermath of the Civil War.
It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.
Gets close enough
In the outskirts of Tokyo, a poor but close-knit group living on the fringes of society survives through shoplifting and odd jobs. When Osamu and his son take in a neglected young girl, their already fragile existence begins to unravel. As the family grows attached to her, buried
The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.
Holds the question
A boy growing up in Dublin during the 1980s escapes his strained family life by starting a band to impress the mysterious girl he likes.
It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.
Better than nothing
The film tells the story of Ariel, a 21-year-old who decides to form a rock band to compete for a prize of ten thousand dollars in a musical band contest, this as a last option when trying to get money to save their relationship and reunite with his ex-girlfriend, which breaks du
Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.
Closer than expected
With dreams of diving abroad, Tsuneo gets a job assisting Josee, an artist whose imagination takes her far beyond her wheelchair. But when the tide turns against them, they push each other to places they never thought possible, and inspire a love fit for a storybook.
It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.
Gets close enough
M, a university dropout low on money and luck, volunteers to take care of his terminally ill grandmother, in the hope of pocketing an inheritance.
The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.
Holds the question
Jessica knows exactly what her life is supposed to look like and where it takes her. But then she meets Danny. He has a complicated past and could confuse all their plans. Jessica has to decide.
It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.
Better than nothing
A family dog - with a near-human soul and a philosopher's mind - evaluates his life through the lessons learned by his human owner, a race-car driver.
Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.
Closer than expected
Not the session you need. The nearest available thing.
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