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Films for When the Relationship Is Fine but Something Has Left It

These picks were hand-selected for when the relationship is fine but something is gone, not by algorithm, by editors. Films that meet you where you are, not where they want you to be.

Films for when everything is technically fine and the low-grade absence underneath has no name you can locate.

You have been going backward. Not to live there, just to touch the texture of a time that felt different, to confirm that easier versions of things existed once and might exist again. The nostalgia is something you are constructing deliberately from what's available, and you are aware of the construction and doing it anyway, because sometimes the manufactured version is the closest thing. These films work in the same register. They hold an earlier feeling with enough honesty that you can borrow it for a while.

Dirty Work movie poster
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1998 · 82min · ★★★★☆ 8.0/10

Unemployed and recently dumped, Mitch and his buddy Sam start a revenge-for-hire business to raise the $50,000 that Sam's father needs to get a heart transplant.

It holds a register of warmth that belongs to an earlier time. Close enough to the feeling you're reaching for that you can borrow it for a while.

Safe to go backward

Toy Story 4 movie poster
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2019 · 100min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

Woody has always been confident about his place in the world, devoted to taking care of his kid:whether that's Andy or Bonnie. But after Bonnie creates a reluctant new toy called "Forky", a road trip adventure alongside old and new friends challenges everything Woody believes abo

The texture of this film is familiar in the way old photographs are familiar. It gives you somewhere to put the tenderness that has nowhere else to go.

Holds the past carefully

Casablanca movie poster
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1943 · 102min · ★★★★☆ 7.7/10

In Casablanca, Morocco in December 1941, a cynical American expatriate meets a former lover, with unforeseen complications.

It goes backward in the right way. Not nostalgic for nostalgia's sake, but honest about what it felt like when the thing you're missing was still there.

Warmth without demand

The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring movie poster
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2001 · 179min · ★★★★☆ 8.2/10

Young hobbit Frodo Baggins, after inheriting a mysterious ring from his uncle Bilbo, must leave his home in order to keep it from falling into the hands of its evil creator. Along the way, a fellowship is formed to protect the ringbearer and make sure that the ring arrives at its

The warmth of this film is specific and it is real and it doesn't require you to explain why you needed it.

Real enough to borrow

The films that follow lean into the texture of memory. They know what you are looking for in the past.

Forrest Gump movie poster
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1994 · 142min · ★★★★☆ 8.3/10

A man with a low IQ has accomplished great things in his life and been present during significant historic events:in each case, far exceeding what anyone imagined he could do. But despite all he has achieved, his one true love eludes him.

It holds a register of warmth that belongs to an earlier time. Close enough to the feeling you're reaching for that you can borrow it for a while.

Safe to go backward

Scarface movie poster
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1983 · 170min · ★★★☆☆ 6.4/10

After getting a green card in exchange for assassinating a Cuban government official, Tony Montana stakes a claim on the drug trade in Miami. Viciously murdering anyone who stands in his way, Tony eventually becomes the biggest drug lord in the state, controlling nearly all the c

The texture of this film is familiar in the way old photographs are familiar. It gives you somewhere to put the tenderness that has nowhere else to go.

Holds the past carefully

Eat Drink Man Woman movie poster
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1994 · 123min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

Retired and widowed Chinese master chef Chu lives in modern day Taipei, with his three attractive daughters, all of whom are unattached. Soon, each daughter encounters a new man in their lives. When these new relationships blossom, stereotypes are broken and the living situation

It goes backward in the right way. Not nostalgic for nostalgia's sake, but honest about what it felt like when the thing you're missing was still there.

Warmth without demand

Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge movie poster
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1995 · 190min · ★★★☆☆ 6.7/10

Raj is a rich, carefree, happy-go-lucky second generation NRI. Simran is the daughter of Chaudhary Baldev Singh, who in spite of being an NRI is very strict about adherence to Indian values. Simran has left for India to be married to her childhood fiancé. Raj leaves for India wit

The warmth of this film is specific and it is real and it doesn't require you to explain why you needed it.

Real enough to borrow

To Live movie poster
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1994 · 133min · ★★★★☆ 7.9/10

Married couple Fugui and Jiazhen endure tumultuous events in mid-20th century mainland China as their personal fortunes move from wealthy landownership to peasantry.

It holds a register of warmth that belongs to an earlier time. Close enough to the feeling you're reaching for that you can borrow it for a while.

Safe to go backward

Grave of the Fireflies movie poster
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1988 · 89min · ★★★★☆ 7.5/10

In the final months of World War II, 14-year-old Seita and his sister Setsuko are orphaned when their mother is killed during an air raid in Kobe, Japan. After a falling out with their aunt, they move into an abandoned bomb shelter. With no surviving relatives and their emergency

The texture of this film is familiar in the way old photographs are familiar. It gives you somewhere to put the tenderness that has nowhere else to go.

Holds the past carefully

Paris, Texas movie poster
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1984 · 145min · ★★★★☆ 7.7/10

A man wanders out of the desert not knowing who he is. His brother finds him, and helps to pull his memory back of the life he led before he walked out on his family and disappeared four years earlier.

It goes backward in the right way. Not nostalgic for nostalgia's sake, but honest about what it felt like when the thing you're missing was still there.

Warmth without demand

Léon: The Professional movie poster
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1994 · 111min · ★★★★☆ 8.5/10

Léon, the top hit man in New York, has earned a rep as an effective "cleaner". But when his next-door neighbors are wiped out by a loose-cannon DEA agent, he becomes the unwilling custodian of 12-year-old Mathilda. Before long, Mathilda's thoughts turn to revenge, and she conside

The warmth of this film is specific and it is real and it doesn't require you to explain why you needed it.

Real enough to borrow

You can't go back. You can get close. These are close.

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