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Films for Being the One They Did Not Quite Choose

The Moviepiq team selected these films specifically for when being someone elses almost. Chosen because they understand the specific weight of this moment.

Films for knowing exactly where you landed in their order of things. Close enough to understand the gap.

You need your hands full. That is all. You need something that takes up the right amount of space in your attention, that keeps the quieter frequency from surfacing, that gives you somewhere to be that isn't inside the thing you are working around. These films are designed for exactly this kind of watching: present enough to hold you, undemanding enough to let you rest inside the story without having to perform your engagement. They will do the work. You just have to stay in the room.

Amélie movie poster
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2001 · 122min · ★★★☆☆ 6.7/10

At a tiny Parisian café, the adorable yet painfully shy Amélie accidentally discovers a gift for helping others. Soon Amelie is spending her days as a matchmaker, guardian angel, and all-around do-gooder. But when she bumps into a handsome stranger, will she find the courage to b

It holds your attention at exactly the right level. Demanding enough that the loop cannot find a foothold, generous enough that it does not feel like work.

Full hands, quiet mind

Whiplash movie poster
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2014 · 107min · ★★★★☆ 8.3/10

Under the direction of a ruthless instructor, a talented young drummer begins to pursue perfection at any cost, even his humanity.

Full enough to keep the front of your brain occupied. The thing you are working around will still be there later, but later is not now.

Keeps the front occupied

The Host movie poster
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2013 · 126min · ★★★★☆ 8.0/10

A parasitic alien soul is injected into the body of Melanie Stryder. Instead of carrying out her race's mission of taking over the Earth, "Wanda" (as she comes to be called) forms a bond with her host and sets out to aid other free humans.

The right kind of busy. This film puts something in your hands and keeps it there until you are ready to set it down.

Right level of demanding

Neon Genesis Evangelion: The End of Evangelion movie poster
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1997 · 87min · ★★★★☆ 8.2/10

SEELE orders an all-out attack on NERV, aiming to destroy the Evas before Gendo can advance his own plans for the Human Instrumentality Project. Shinji is pushed to the limits of his sanity as he is forced to decide the fate of humanity.

Exactly what distraction is supposed to be: a world complete enough to be in, undemanding enough to rest inside.

The bridge

Full enough to keep the loop from finding you. Just.

The Art of Racing in the Rain movie poster
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2019 · 109min · ★★★★☆ 8.5/10

A family dog - with a near-human soul and a philosopher's mind - evaluates his life through the lessons learned by his human owner, a race-car driver.

It holds your attention at exactly the right level. Demanding enough that the loop cannot find a foothold, generous enough that it does not feel like work.

Full hands, quiet mind

Gabriel's Inferno: Part III movie poster
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2020 · 102min · ★★★★☆ 7.7/10

The final part of the film adaption of the erotic romance novel Gabriel's Inferno written by an anonymous Canadian author under the pen name Sylvain Reynard.

Full enough to keep the front of your brain occupied. The thing you are working around will still be there later, but later is not now.

Keeps the front occupied

Clouds movie poster
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2020 · 121min · ★★★☆☆ 7.1/10

Young musician Zach Sobiech discovers his cancer has spread, leaving him just a few months to live. With limited time, he follows his dream and makes an album, unaware that it will soon be a viral music phenomenon.

The right kind of busy. This film puts something in your hands and keeps it there until you are ready to set it down.

Right level of demanding

Soul movie poster
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2020 · 101min · ★★★★☆ 8.5/10

Joe Gardner is a middle school teacher with a love for jazz music. After a successful audition at the Half Note Club, he suddenly gets into an accident that separates his soul from his body and is transported to the You Seminar, a center in which souls develop and gain passions b

Exactly what distraction is supposed to be: a world complete enough to be in, undemanding enough to rest inside.

The bridge

Better Days movie poster
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2019 · 135min · ★★★★☆ 8.5/10

A bullied teenage girl forms an unlikely friendship with a mysterious young man who protects her from her assailants, while she copes with the pressures of her final examinations.

It holds your attention at exactly the right level. Demanding enough that the loop cannot find a foothold, generous enough that it does not feel like work.

Full hands, quiet mind

Dedicated to my ex movie poster
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2019 · 94min · ★★★★☆ 8.3/10

The film tells the story of Ariel, a 21-year-old who decides to form a rock band to compete for a prize of ten thousand dollars in a musical band contest, this as a last option when trying to get money to save their relationship and reunite with his ex-girlfriend, which breaks du

Full enough to keep the front of your brain occupied. The thing you are working around will still be there later, but later is not now.

Keeps the front occupied

20th Century Girl movie poster
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2022 · 119min · ★★★★☆ 7.6/10

In 1999, a teen girl keeps close tabs on a boy in school on behalf of her deeply smitten best friend - then she gets swept up in a love story of her own.

The right kind of busy. This film puts something in your hands and keeps it there until you are ready to set it down.

Right level of demanding

Life in a Year movie poster
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2020 · 107min · ★★★★☆ 7.6/10

A 17 year old finds out that his girlfriend is dying, so he sets out to give her an entire life, in the last year she has left.

Exactly what distraction is supposed to be: a world complete enough to be in, undemanding enough to rest inside.

The bridge

Hands full, head somewhere else. That's the whole goal.

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