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Films for When You Love Who Someone Used to Be

These picks were hand-selected for when loving someone across a version of themselves that no longer exists, not by algorithm, by editors. Films that meet you where you are, not where they want you to be.

Films for loving who someone was. The person they are now is different, and the version you loved exists only inside you.

You need to be somewhere else for a while. That is the full situation. Somewhere that doesn't require your presence, that asks nothing, that gives you the low warmth of another world to be in without the tax of your own. The dissociation is not a problem to be solved. It is a reasonable response to something unreasonable, and you are allowed to manage it this way for now. These films are built for exactly this. They will be there and so will you and nothing more will be required of either of you.

Love, Simon movie poster
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2018 · 110min · ★★★★☆ 7.8/10

Everyone deserves a great love story, but for 17-year-old Simon Spier, it's a little more complicated. He hasn't told his family or friends that he's gay, and he doesn't know the identity of the anonymous classmate that he's fallen for online.

It asks nothing of you. The world of this film is complete and self-contained and you can be in it without bringing anything from your actual life.

No presence required

A Silent Voice: The Movie movie poster
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2016 · 129min · ★★★☆☆ 6.9/10

Shouya Ishida starts bullying the new girl in class, Shouko Nishimiya, because she is deaf. But as the teasing continues, the rest of the class starts to turn on Shouya for his lack of compassion. When they leave elementary school, Shouko and Shouya do not speak to each other aga

Warm without being demanding. It gives you somewhere else to be for a couple of hours without requiring your presence.

Soft enough to float through

Inside Out movie poster
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2015 · 95min · ★★★★☆ 7.6/10

When 11-year-old Riley moves to a new city, her Emotions team up to help her through the transition. Joy, Fear, Anger, Disgust and Sadness work together, but when Joy and Sadness get lost, they must journey through unfamiliar places to get back home.

The kind of film that works when you need to not be in your own head. Low-friction, full world, no performance required.

Lets you be elsewhere

On My Skin movie poster
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2018 · 100min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

The incredible true story behind the most controversial Italian court cases in recent years. Stefano Cucchi was arrested for a minor crime and mysteriously found dead during his detention. In one week's time, a family is changed forever.

You can float through this one. It will hold you without asking you to hold it back.

Low-friction

No analysis required. You do not have to show up fully for any of these.

Close to the Horizon movie poster
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2019 · 117min · ★★★☆☆ 6.4/10

Jessica knows exactly what her life is supposed to look like and where it takes her. But then she meets Danny. He has a complicated past and could confuse all their plans. Jessica has to decide.

It asks nothing of you. The world of this film is complete and self-contained and you can be in it without bringing anything from your actual life.

No presence required

A Man Called Otto movie poster
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2022 · 126min · ★★★☆☆ 6.9/10

When a lively young family moves in next door, grumpy widower Otto Anderson meets his match in a quick-witted, pregnant woman named Marisol, leading to an unlikely friendship that turns his world upside down.

Warm without being demanding. It gives you somewhere else to be for a couple of hours without requiring your presence.

Soft enough to float through

Palmer movie poster
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2021 · 110min · ★★★★☆ 7.9/10

After 12 years in prison, former high school football star Eddie Palmer returns home to put his life back together:and forms an unlikely bond with Sam, an outcast boy from a troubled home. But Eddie's past threatens to ruin his new life and family.

The kind of film that works when you need to not be in your own head. Low-friction, full world, no performance required.

Lets you be elsewhere

Impossible Things movie poster
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2021 · 88min · ★★★☆☆ 7.3/10

After the death of her abusive husband, Matilde finds her new best friend in Miguel, her young, insecure, and disoriented neighbor.

You can float through this one. It will hold you without asking you to hold it back.

Low-friction

Parasite movie poster
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2019 · 133min · ★★★★☆ 7.7/10

All unemployed, Ki-taek's family takes peculiar interest in the wealthy and glamorous Parks for their livelihood until they get entangled in an unexpected incident.

It asks nothing of you. The world of this film is complete and self-contained and you can be in it without bringing anything from your actual life.

No presence required

STRAW movie poster
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2025 · 105min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

What will be her last straw? A devastatingly bad day pushes a hardworking single mother to the breaking point : and into a shocking act of desperation.

Warm without being demanding. It gives you somewhere else to be for a couple of hours without requiring your presence.

Soft enough to float through

Poor Things movie poster
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2023 · 141min · ★★★☆☆ 6.9/10

Brought back to life by an unorthodox scientist, a young woman runs off with a lawyer on a whirlwind adventure across the continents. Free from the prejudices of her times, she grows steadfast in her purpose to stand for equality and liberation.

The kind of film that works when you need to not be in your own head. Low-friction, full world, no performance required.

Lets you be elsewhere

Batman Begins movie poster
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2005 · 140min · ★★★☆☆ 7.1/10

Driven by tragedy, billionaire Bruce Wayne dedicates his life to uncovering and defeating the corruption that plagues his home, Gotham City. Unable to work within the system, he instead creates a new identity, a symbol of fear for the criminal underworld - The Batman.

You can float through this one. It will hold you without asking you to hold it back.

Low-friction

Somewhere else. That's all you needed. Here it is.

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