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Films for When You Love Who Someone Used to Be

These films were chosen by the Moviepiq editorial team for when loving someone across a version of themselves that no longer exists. No forced resolution. These films sit with the feeling rather than rush past it.

Films for loving who someone was. The person they are now is different, and the version you loved exists only inside you.

You are not going to talk to anyone about this. Not today. You have your reasons and they are real and you are not going to be talked out of them right now. So you are here instead, which is its own kind of decision, a way of getting close to the thing without having to say it out loud to someone who is going to respond. These films will get closer than you expect. They are not a substitute for the conversation you're avoiding, and they know it, and they will get as close as they can and leave the rest to you.

There's Still Tomorrow movie poster
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2023 · 118min · ★★★★☆ 8.0/10

In postwar Rome, a working-class woman dreams of a better future for herself and her daughter while facing abuse at the hands of her domineering husband. When a mysterious letter arrives, she discovers the courage to change the circumstances of her life.

It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.

Gets close enough

The Traitor movie poster
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2019 · 151min · ★★★★☆ 8.5/10

Palermo, Sicily, 1980. Mafia member Tommaso Buscetta decides to move to Brazil with his family fleeing the constant war between the different clans of the criminal organization. But when, after living several misfortunes, he is forced to return to Italy, he makes a bold decision

The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.

Holds the question

Violet Evergarden: Eternity and the Auto Memory Doll movie poster
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2019 · 90min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

Violet Evergarden, a former soldier returned from war, comes to teach at a women's academy and changes a young girl's life.

It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.

Better than nothing

Lucy Shimmers and the Prince of Peace movie poster
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2020 · 87min · ★★★★☆ 8.2/10

Second chances start when a hardened criminal crosses paths with a precocious little girl who is helped by an angel to change hearts during the holiday season.

Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.

Closer than expected

None of these are a substitute for the conversation you are avoiding. They are just the nearest available thing.

On My Skin movie poster
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2018 · 100min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

The incredible true story behind the most controversial Italian court cases in recent years. Stefano Cucchi was arrested for a minor crime and mysteriously found dead during his detention. In one week's time, a family is changed forever.

It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.

Gets close enough

Love, Simon movie poster
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2018 · 110min · ★★★★☆ 7.8/10

Everyone deserves a great love story, but for 17-year-old Simon Spier, it's a little more complicated. He hasn't told his family or friends that he's gay, and he doesn't know the identity of the anonymous classmate that he's fallen for online.

The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.

Holds the question

Gabriel's Inferno: Part II movie poster
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2020 · 106min · ★★★☆☆ 7.3/10

Professor Gabriel Emerson finally learns the truth about Julia Mitchell's identity, but his realization comes a moment too late. Julia is done waiting for the well-respected Dante specialist to remember her and wants nothing more to do with him. Can Gabriel win back her heart bef

It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.

Better than nothing

Evangelion: 3.0+1.0 Thrice Upon a Time movie poster
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2021 · 155min · ★★★★☆ 7.8/10

In the aftermath of the Fourth Impact, stranded without their Evangelions, Shinji, Asuka and Rei find refuge in one of the rare pockets of humanity that still exist on the ruined planet Earth. There, each lives a life far different from their days as an Evangelion pilot. However,

Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.

Closer than expected

The Count of Monte Cristo movie poster
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2024 · 178min · ★★★☆☆ 7.3/10

Edmond Dantès becomes the target of a sinister plot and is arrested on his wedding day for a crime he did not commit. After 14 years in the island prison of Ch--teau d’If, he manages a daring escape. Now rich beyond his dreams, he assumes the identity of the Count of Monte-Cristo

It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.

Gets close enough

A Silent Voice: The Movie movie poster
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2016 · 129min · ★★★☆☆ 6.9/10

Shouya Ishida starts bullying the new girl in class, Shouko Nishimiya, because she is deaf. But as the teasing continues, the rest of the class starts to turn on Shouya for his lack of compassion. When they leave elementary school, Shouko and Shouya do not speak to each other aga

The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.

Holds the question

Past Lives movie poster
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2023 · 106min · ★★★☆☆ 6.7/10

After decades apart, childhood friends Nora and Hae Sung are reunited in New York for one fateful weekend as they confront notions of destiny, love, and the choices that make a life.

It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.

Better than nothing

The Specials movie poster
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2019 · 114min · ★★★☆☆ 7.1/10

For twenty years, Bruno and Malik have lived in a different world:the world of autistic children and teens. In charge of two separate nonprofit organizations (The Hatch & The Shelter), they train young people from underprivileged areas to be caregivers for extreme cases that have

Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.

Closer than expected

Not the session you need. The nearest available thing.

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