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Films for Someone Who Knew You Before You Were This

The Moviepiq team selected these films specifically for when someone who knew you before you became this. Chosen because they understand the specific weight of this moment.

Films for the person who knew you before the version you've been performing. Being near them does something destabilizing.

There is someone out there who knew you before. Before the version you've been performing, before the life you assembled, before you got good at being who you are now. Being near them, or even thinking about them, does something destabilizing that you can't quite name and definitely can't afford to sit with right now. So you don't. You find things to watch instead, stories that do the excavating at a safe remove. These films will not take you apart the way that person can. They'll just get close enough to tell you something is there.

Dogman movie poster
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2023 · 115min · ★★★★☆ 8.3/10

A boy, bruised by life, finds his salvation through the love of his dogs.

It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.

Gets close enough

Love, Simon movie poster
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2018 · 110min · ★★★★☆ 7.8/10

Everyone deserves a great love story, but for 17-year-old Simon Spier, it's a little more complicated. He hasn't told his family or friends that he's gay, and he doesn't know the identity of the anonymous classmate that he's fallen for online.

The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.

Holds the question

The Forge movie poster
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2024 · 123min · ★★★★☆ 8.3/10

19 year old Isaiah Wright lives for basketball and video games. A year out of high school, he has no job, no plans, and no idea how to be a man. At odds with his single mother Cynthia, Isaiah is given an ultimatum - to step up or move out. Feeling the pull from his friends and th

It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.

Better than nothing

Gabriel's Inferno: Part II movie poster
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2020 · 106min · ★★★☆☆ 7.3/10

Professor Gabriel Emerson finally learns the truth about Julia Mitchell's identity, but his realization comes a moment too late. Julia is done waiting for the well-respected Dante specialist to remember her and wants nothing more to do with him. Can Gabriel win back her heart bef

Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.

Closer than expected

None of these are a substitute for the conversation you are avoiding. They are just the nearest available thing.

Close to the Horizon movie poster
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2019 · 117min · ★★★☆☆ 6.4/10

Jessica knows exactly what her life is supposed to look like and where it takes her. But then she meets Danny. He has a complicated past and could confuse all their plans. Jessica has to decide.

It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.

Gets close enough

Forgotten Love movie poster
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2023 · 140min · ★★★★☆ 8.5/10

A once-respected surgeon who's lost his family and his memory gets a chance at redemption when he reconnects with someone from his forgotten past.

The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.

Holds the question

The Father movie poster
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2020 · 97min · ★★★★☆ 8.2/10

A man refuses all assistance from his daughter as he ages and, as he tries to make sense of his changing circumstances, he begins to doubt his loved ones, his own mind and even the fabric of his reality.

It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.

Better than nothing

A Silent Voice: The Movie movie poster
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2016 · 129min · ★★★☆☆ 6.9/10

Shouya Ishida starts bullying the new girl in class, Shouko Nishimiya, because she is deaf. But as the teasing continues, the rest of the class starts to turn on Shouya for his lack of compassion. When they leave elementary school, Shouko and Shouya do not speak to each other aga

Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.

Closer than expected

Paper Lives movie poster
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2021 · 96min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

In the streets of Istanbul, ailing waste warehouse worker Mehmet takes a small boy under his wing and must soon confront his own traumatic childhood.

It will not give you the tools your therapist would. It will get closer to the real question than the loop in your head has managed so far.

Gets close enough

Memoir of a Snail movie poster
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2024 · 94min · ★★★★☆ 7.7/10

Forcibly separated from her twin brother when they are orphaned, a melancholic misfit learns how to find confidence within herself amid the clutter of misfortunes and everyday life.

The film says something true at the right distance. Not advice, not instruction, just recognition of the specific thing you have been carrying.

Holds the question

Perfect Strangers movie poster
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2016 · 97min · ★★★☆☆ 6.7/10

During a dinner, a group of friends decide to share whatever message or phone call they will receive during the evening, with unforeseen consequences.

It holds the question without trying to answer it. That is enough for right now.

Better than nothing

Midnight Sun movie poster
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2018 · 92min · ★★★☆☆ 6.7/10

Katie, a 17-year-old, has been sheltered since childhood and confined to her house during the day by a rare disease that makes even the smallest amount of sunlight deadly. Fate intervenes when she meets Charlie and they embark on a summer romance.

Closer than you expected. Not a replacement for the conversation, but the nearest available thing, and better than nothing.

Closer than expected

Not the session you need. The nearest available thing.

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