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Films for Someone Who Knew You Before You Were This

These films were chosen by the Moviepiq editorial team for when someone who knew you before you became this. No forced resolution. These films sit with the feeling rather than rush past it.

Films for the person who knew you before the version you've been performing. Being near them does something destabilizing.

The feeling is there. You have been keeping it at arm's length by turning it into something you can think about rather than something you have to feel, which is not avoidance exactly, more like a delay you have negotiated with yourself. You name the patterns, you read the relevant material, you build the case for how this happened and why. These films will not interrupt that. They carry their emotional weight through precision and craft, and the feeling arrives anyway, from the side, the way it always does when you are looking somewhere else.

Close to the Horizon movie poster
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2019 · 117min · ★★★☆☆ 6.4/10

Jessica knows exactly what her life is supposed to look like and where it takes her. But then she meets Danny. He has a complicated past and could confuse all their plans. Jessica has to decide.

It gives your mind something real to work with. The feeling is present but arrives through craft and precision, which is the angle you need right now.

Something to think with

The Forge movie poster
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2024 · 123min · ★★★★☆ 8.3/10

19 year old Isaiah Wright lives for basketball and video games. A year out of high school, he has no job, no plans, and no idea how to be a man. At odds with his single mother Cynthia, Isaiah is given an ultimatum - to step up or move out. Feeling the pull from his friends and th

Complex enough to keep your analytical side engaged. The emotion lands anyway, just from a direction you weren't watching.

Earns its feeling

A Silent Voice: The Movie movie poster
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2016 · 129min · ★★★☆☆ 6.9/10

Shouya Ishida starts bullying the new girl in class, Shouko Nishimiya, because she is deaf. But as the teasing continues, the rest of the class starts to turn on Shouya for his lack of compassion. When they leave elementary school, Shouko and Shouya do not speak to each other aga

It earns its weight through structure. Your brain gets the workout it came for, and something true gets through underneath.

Mind first, then heart

Soul movie poster
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2020 · 101min · ★★★★☆ 8.5/10

Joe Gardner is a middle school teacher with a love for jazz music. After a successful audition at the Half Note Club, he suddenly gets into an accident that separates his soul from his body and is transported to the You Seminar, a center in which souls develop and gain passions b

Smart enough to meet you where you are. The grief is inside the architecture of it, not on the surface where you would have to deal with it directly.

Precision over sentiment

These films work not because they explain the feeling but because they earn your trust before they go near it.

There's Still Tomorrow movie poster
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2023 · 118min · ★★★★☆ 8.0/10

In postwar Rome, a working-class woman dreams of a better future for herself and her daughter while facing abuse at the hands of her domineering husband. When a mysterious letter arrives, she discovers the courage to change the circumstances of her life.

It gives your mind something real to work with. The feeling is present but arrives through craft and precision, which is the angle you need right now.

Something to think with

Memoir of a Snail movie poster
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2024 · 94min · ★★★★☆ 7.7/10

Forcibly separated from her twin brother when they are orphaned, a melancholic misfit learns how to find confidence within herself amid the clutter of misfortunes and everyday life.

Complex enough to keep your analytical side engaged. The emotion lands anyway, just from a direction you weren't watching.

Earns its feeling

Midnight Sun movie poster
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2018 · 92min · ★★★☆☆ 6.7/10

Katie, a 17-year-old, has been sheltered since childhood and confined to her house during the day by a rare disease that makes even the smallest amount of sunlight deadly. Fate intervenes when she meets Charlie and they embark on a summer romance.

It earns its weight through structure. Your brain gets the workout it came for, and something true gets through underneath.

Mind first, then heart

A Whisker Away movie poster
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2020 · 104min · ★★★☆☆ 6.7/10

A peculiar girl transforms into a cat to catch her crush's attention. But before she realizes it, the line between human and animal starts to blur.

Smart enough to meet you where you are. The grief is inside the architecture of it, not on the surface where you would have to deal with it directly.

Precision over sentiment

David Attenborough: A Life on Our Planet movie poster
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2020 · 83min · ★★★★☆ 7.7/10

The story of life on our planet by the man who has seen more of the natural world than any other. In more than 90 years, Attenborough has visited every continent on the globe, exploring the wild places of our planet and documenting the living world in all its variety and wonder.

It gives your mind something real to work with. The feeling is present but arrives through craft and precision, which is the angle you need right now.

Something to think with

See You Up There movie poster
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2017 · 113min · ★★★☆☆ 6.9/10

In November 1918, a few days before the Armistice, when Lieutenant Pradelle orders a senseless attack, he causes a useless disaster; but his outrageous act also binds the lives of two soldiers who have nothing more in common than the battlefield: Édouard saves Albert, although at

Complex enough to keep your analytical side engaged. The emotion lands anyway, just from a direction you weren't watching.

Earns its feeling

Shoplifters movie poster
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2018 · 120min · ★★★★☆ 7.9/10

In the outskirts of Tokyo, a poor but close-knit group living on the fringes of society survives through shoplifting and odd jobs. When Osamu and his son take in a neglected young girl, their already fragile existence begins to unravel. As the family grows attached to her, buried

It earns its weight through structure. Your brain gets the workout it came for, and something true gets through underneath.

Mind first, then heart

Me Before You movie poster
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2016 · 110min · ★★★★☆ 8.1/10

Lou Clark, a directionless 26-year-old from the English countryside, takes a job at the local castle as a caregiver and companion to a wealthy young banker, Will Traynor. Wheelchair-bound from an accident two years prior, the once adventurous Will has all but given up : that is u

Smart enough to meet you where you are. The grief is inside the architecture of it, not on the surface where you would have to deal with it directly.

Precision over sentiment

The right film gives your mind somewhere to go. These do.

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